Delayed Marriages Among Igbo Men - Causes And Effect
By Alvan Chinaka 3 months ago
In many Igbo families, there arises a great worry when male children fail to get married in a timely manner. Many times men who are in their 40's remain single not because they do not want to be married, but because they lack the resources to do so.
At The Awareness, our findings show that one of the reasons is the high bride price or dowry.
In most Igbo communities and towns, there is this age-old belief that the institution of marriage is meant for mature men and not boys.
Because of this, only real men who are ready and well equipped financially can pay the exorbitant bride price and provide all the items on the list brought by the family of the bride, which includes an assortment of items as well as sums of raw cash for various categories of people. In some places, there is even a condition that the groom must train one of brides siblings up to the university level.
In many towns, traditional marriage requires the throwing of flamboyant ceremonies which comes as a prerequisite by the family of the brideRelated: Killi We Nwachukwu - The Strongman With A Soft Heart . For such traditional ceremonies, the groom provides money for dresses to be worn by the bride and the bridal train, the bride’s mother and her friends as well as providing the funds for the elaborate cooking that would need to be done.
Late marriages among Ndigbo becomes even more pronounced when unemployment as at a high and when the economy is bad.
With a large number of Igbo graduates staying at home without jobs for several years after graduation, as well as the apprentices who have yet to begin their own businesses because of no funding , marriage becomes something put on the back burner or postponed for a better and more financially buoyant time.
Also, many Igbo girls prefer husbands who are already rich. Failure to get such husbands often attracts ridicule from female colleagues and so, they rather wait until rich men come to ask for their hands in marriage rather than accept offers from less wealthy suitors.
You can help contribute to this conversation. Can you think of any other reasons why Igbo men marry late?